Being a stay at home dad is hard work. I expected that. I didn’t expect to have so much fun doing it, though! From being there for my first born’s first steps, first words, and first temper tantrums, I have been the biggest constant in both of my sons’ lives. Traditionally, this would have been a role that only their mother would have had the privilege of fulfilling. However, in today’s world, more and more men are assuming the responsibilities of the stay at home parent, whilst the woman of the house works the traditional “9 to 5.” Read on to find out some of the awesome benefits of being a stay at home dad.
From first words to first steps, first temper tantrums to fist scraped knees, I have been there for virtually every one of my sons’ firsts. I still remember the first time that my oldest said “Dada” for the first time. I was enthralled. I was equally happy when he took his first tentative steps from his mother’s arms towards me. When he got to my outstretched arms, I scooped him up, happily, saying “I’m so proud of you!” These moments are priceless, and once done, can never be done again. There’s a first time for everything, but everything only has one first!
Pictured Above: A special moment: the first time I held my firstborn son.
I think every man has been here before: You don’t hate your day job, but you hate your boss. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard a friend complain about their boss. “They’re idiots.” “They want me to do X, Y, and Z, but they want it done yesterday!” “They just don’t have any idea what they’re doing.” Whenever someone is griping to me about how much they can’t stand their boss, I just listen and be as supportive as possible, because I absolutely love my bosses, diapers and all! I should, after all; they’re my sons.
Let’s be honest: being a stay at home parent provides its fair share of downtime. It’s an unspoken perk of the job. In fact, I write 90% of this website during said downtime. Whenever I put TJ down for his afternoon nap, I make sure his younger brother, Rowan, is happy (which is surprisingly easy; as Rowan is the least fussy baby on the planet), turn on Netflix, take out the Chromebook, and start writing!
Stranger Things is currently my favorite Netflix TV show!
When is the last time you were able to sleep on the job? For me, it was yesterday. Sleeping on the job is typically frowned upon (unless you’re a mattress researcher), however, as a stay at home dad, you can sleep every time your kids do. In fact, if you’re a new father, I highly suggest that you (and mom) take advantage of any time your baby is sleeping to do the same. You’re going to need all the sleep you can get. If you’re a particularly heavy sleeper, you can set a timer on your phone to wake you up in 30 minutes so you can check on your kids, or, you can buy baby monitors (my wife and I use two). Either way, nap time is one of my favorite things about this job!
Have you researched the cost of adequate daycare? A quick Google search reveals that, though prices vary based on location, the national average cost for one child per year in 2019 is a whopping $8,500. In my town, a suburb of Philadelphia, the average cost pear is just shy of $14,000. Needless to say, that’s prohibitively expensive for most families (mine included). In fact, a recent care.com survey of American families found that 70% of American families are paying childcare rates the government defines as unaffordable. Fortunately for us, I am able to provide that service. I absolutely love what I do, and I am hoping that one day soon, it becomes an income of it’s own, as I continue to build this website! If you’re passionate about something, there’s no reason you can’t turn your passion into a side income, too!
You’re not alone. Now, you know about mistermommy.com (Facebook page and website share buttons coming soon). You’re doing better than you think you are. You’ve got this. You are a dad, after all! Drop me a comment at the bottom of this page to let me know what you thought of this post; I take your feedback to heart and try to incorporate it into the website. Bookmark, and check back frequently, as I will be updating the content, functionality, and community constantly.